Life is all about making decisions. Everyday, we make thousands of decisions, some more important than others. Most of them are largely irrelevant, others have a much greater impact on our future.
When my parents got married in 1981, they agreed that my father would take care of the larger decisions, my mother would handle smaller, daily matters. According to my father, 38 years of marriage later, they still haven’t had to make any larger decisions that he would have been in charge of.. 😉
The smaller choices in life don’t really make much of a difference, if they go wrong, or result in an unwanted direction, you simply alter. But when it comes to big matters, you really need to over weigh future consequences.
How do you know if you’ve made the right decision?
When you’re over weighing something big, you’ll probably ask yourself, how can I be sure? Well, funny thing about life is that you won’t know until later. Going with your gut feeling is a good start. Research is another golden one. For me personally, I try to think how I might look back at matters in ten years. Was my decision irrelevant or did it have an impact on how life played out? Would I regret it?
At the same time though, there’s another relevant way to think about things: I was just standing in front of the mirror and happened to notice the t-shirt that I’m wearing. It’s one of my favorites because of the bright coral color, but it also has an important message stated across the chest: “Don’t look back, you’re not going that way.” And that’s maybe the best way to confront life – live in the moment and look forward. What’s done is done, and nothing is going to change the past – but you can change the way tomorrow will look.
Turn your mountain into grains of sand
How you choose to face life depends a lot on your attitude. I’ve said it a million times before, and I’ll say it a million times more. Every mountain can be turned into grains of sand. If the decision you need to make seems like a huge mountain, break it down. Take it sand grain by sand grain. Heck build up a new mountain if you must! Just don’t let some massive chunk of stone stand in your way. Now this obviously doesn’t apply to every larger decision we have to make, but it does provide perspective. Nothing is ever as huge as we might first imagine.
This way of thinking also goes hand in hand with a previous post of mine on positive thinking, click here if you would like to read more on the topic.
Face the consequences when they’re relevant, but don’t worry about what might have been
If you’re anything like me, you’re probably good with worrying about things that are actually not relevant. If someone can point out to me the sense in worrying about something that might have been, I’ll gladly listen. But in all honesty, I think life provides us with enough daily hiccups to keep our minds preoccupied anyhow.. Now again, you should however face the consequences of your decisions. And also stand by them – in both the good and bad. You live, you learn, and take that knowledge with you to make better decisions. Even though I don’t think we should focus too much on looking back, it is however important to reflect on the past. Again, so that you can learn for the future.
I’ve personally been of the opinion that I’ve made some massive, life-altering decisions during the past months – and it was beginning to freak me out. So many what if’s, am I sure, what next, that my head was spinning. So I took a step back and decided “no”. These decisions have and will have an impact on my future, but they’re not huge. I’ll much rather take my parents’ attitude, that they’re all small matters in the end. Come what may, I’ll face it then!
Have a great beginning of the week and stop worrying, there are so many better ways to spend your time! Everything happens for a reason, just trust yourself and your gut. And if you’re still unsure, how about listening to Steve Jobs’ incredible speech on “Connecting the dots”. xx